Limiting our men

In the day and age where stereotyping is a crime, there seems one group has escaped the protection of avoiding such cruelty. Men. Why is it acceptable to categorize men by their anatomy, but truly criminal to do the same for women? It's more than fine to bash men for their possessing their dangling participles, but try judging a woman based on her having a chest and you will be dragged out in to the street and stabbed with a stiletto. I recently heard someone comment, "God messed up when He gave men penises." What WAS He thinking?! Better yet is the statement, "The world would be so much better if there were only women in it." Are you kidding me? The world would be a very boring place without men. And talk about monthly cycles. It would be insanity without men. Sorry girls, but I like having someone around who can hold me in his strong arms when I am feeling blue, tell me to stop worrying over silly things, lift heavier things than I can, goes to work and slays dragons so I don't have to, and completes me. In other words, I like men. And I like my man a lot.

Have you ever noticed that women who make such hateful comments about men are always the ones who have been in failed relationships? Gee, I wonder why? These are the type of ladies who get upset when their boyfriends, husbands, lovers, etc. fail to be good girlfriends. Your man most likely doesn't want to sit around and talk about the benefits of getting a v-neck cut swim suit as opposed to a scoop cut. He doesn't want to spend long hours shopping. He will sympathize over your frustration with your period or latest decorating project, but don't expect him to understand it. When you open up to him and pour out all your emotions, his silence doesn't mean he doesn't care, he most likely is trying to think of the right words to say and feels your pain. You may have to ask him to take the trash out more than once. Again, not from a fault caused by what is between his legs, but more because he is wired to focus on one thing at a time while you, a woman, can multi-task to the extreme. Also as a result of these differences, you may be more detailed orientated than he is. All these things do not mean he is stupid or would be better off as a woman.  It just means he is different. And bless him for being so!

"The Circus" by Georges Seurat

What these women fail to understand when they define men by their anatomy is that they limit their men to such stereotypes. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you expect you guy to only be good for sex and a jerk otherwise, then he will be only that. You'll gravitate towards those type of men or squash down any chance of a more meaningful relationship by limiting men. Have you ever looked at a painting by Georges Seurat? From far away it looks pretty amazing, but get closer and you discover it is made up entirely of dots. Incredible! If women never take the time to "get closer" to their men, get beyond stereotypes, they will miss out on the entire beautiful work that is man. Men will be jerks and cursed for having their anatomy if that is all women see and expect of them.

What women really need to do is let men be men and love them for it. Realize that male bashing and stereotyping doesn't do a single thing to help anyone. If you're crabby about men, you're not going to attract any good ones. They will be too busy being happy with women who cherish and love them for who they are . . .men.