In Sunday's "Parade" magazine, there was a feature article on seven tips that help marriages stay successful. I, of course, had to read them. I found most of them good, while a few were a little more worldly than my viewpoint, but one really set me off because it was very much the opposite of what I believe.
Tip #5 stated that having and hanging out with friends of the opposite gender was a good thing because it also helps to keep a little sizzle in your life (or some simliar wording to that.) Can anyone tell me what is wrong with this advice? Anyone? Anyone?
Well, if you're not as smart as my six year old, let me tell you why. Having friends of the opposite gender is not a bad thing. I have lots of friends that are guys, most of them I know because they are family or married to my girl friends. Nothing wrong with being nice to a guy. But here's the deal. Most people who have friends of the opposite gender and spend time hanging out alone with said friends, tend to have affairs. And most people who allow that friendship to have some sizzle to it, have affairs. Call me crazy, I know, but it's true.
The world doesn't think it is a big deal to look at pornography or fanatasize about some Hollywood stud to get one in the mood for bedroom activities with their spouse, but the world is also destroying itself at a rapid rate and more concerned with obesity than teenage pregnancies. So I am not really putting a lot of stock into what the world has to say. It's like the one friend everyone has that always gives really bad advice that people ignore.
It kind of goes along the same common sense of not touching a hot stove. You WILL get hurt. Hang out alone and fantasize about your guy friend and you will have an affair with him. Maybe not physically, but surely emotionally. Stick to the with the stove. It'll give your life a sizzle and actually hurt less in the end. Or be even crazier and try to get that spark back in the relationship with your actual husband. Novel idea!
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A swim party in April???!!! Love this time where you live. As soon as I can take my own advice. What else did you do for your b-day? I think that would be weird to have a temple recommend interview with my hubby. I don't think he could ever be that serious with me. Oh marriage counsler of mine, what does that mean? I also don't think I could be that nice of a wife for so many years........ And didn't Anna just get baptized? Next thing I know jimmy will be getting baptized......... I'm beginning to understand why the giving up of the nap blogs were voicing so much frustration. It's all the grumpiness that accompanies the transition that wears you out, not just the lost down time. But based on the more recent blogs, it gets better, right???....... In our next life of raising kids let's live closer.
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